As Much as I’d Like to have a Woman President, I want to have the Right Woman…

So, I was out to dinner at Zona 78’s with a group of my friends, all women, ranging from 30-something to 60-something, when one of them said, "I don’t get it (Hillary)…Obama is the female candidate…I relate to him so much better."

I couldn’t keep up with the number of voices clamoring their assent.  Everyone was talking over each other in excited agreement, which got me thinking.

We’ve spent so much time talking about racial and gender barriers during this primary that it never occurred to me, especially with a woman in the race, that my support for Obama has everything to do with his embodiment of feminine virtues.

Virtues like compassion, empathy, and sensitivity – that essentially female virtue of "caring for all." His ability to unite us for a brighter future, his call to service, and finding common ground, that sense of connection…of hope, trust, integrity, and possibilities.

It’s simple he’s got it, and she doesn’t.  I can’t relate to Hillary…

Yes, she’s smart, disciplined and dedicated.  She’s also self-serving, divisive, and imperious.

Given that, it’s not a surprise that her favorite part of the campaign is when the gloves come off and the fur flies, along with the kitchen sink apparently.

What is a surprise is that so many women can’t seem to look past the anatomy of the matter and into the heart.